How to Get Rid of Haters

As teenagers, we receive a lot of flack from the world. We’re horribly stereotyped. Teenagers are the rambunctious (+10 points for spelling, er, autocorrect), disrespectful, good-for-nothing people in our society. Those who have gone before us may not have been exactly “good” kids, so we’re naturally placed in a category that may or may not describe us, but is what they saw other teenagers were like when they grew up. And that’s just from the adults!

Chances are, if your non-Christian friends find out you’re a believer, there will be some friction there. They’ll get annoyed because they feel like you’re “bettah than dem”, and you’ll be distraught because you see them making unhealthy choices for the long-term.

Basically it’s a lose-lose, right? Adults think we’re bad, other teens think we’re weird, and younger kids think the teens that don’t operate under a “legal” status aren’t cool. We’re misfits!

If you feel like you’re in that category, trust me when I say I’ve been there before. All it takes is a little understanding of which position you’re really in, and you’ll feel a little better at least.

From now on, I feel like calling this blog The 4:12 Project (I may or may not have stolen that name from this site). It’s an awesome name taken from an awesome verse that describes us perfectly (check out Esther’s blog by the way, it’s very well done!). 1 Timothy 4:12 says, “Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.” Yes, yes, yes, yes. And. Yes.

Just because we’re teenagers doesn’t mean we’re “incapable” of acting like a normal human being. That verse actually tells to be an example to those around us, even the adults. Whoa!

I love how that verse meshes so greatly with our blog. When you walked down the church aisle to give your life to God, or when you prayed for Him to be apart of your life because you felt like something was missing, or when you got fully dunked in water and came back up, who were you before and who were you after? Before, you had no firm identity. You were searching for a place in the world to fit in. After you became a Christian, you found who you were. I found who I am. My identity isn’t based on what others think of me. In fact, I’m supposed to be setting the example for them in how I act. My “coolness” doesn’t raise or lower based on “hawt”ness, athleticism, clothing, or if I’m “living on the edge”. When we were born again, we became new people, raised in Christ. Our identity is based on what He thinks of us. It feels great to know I’ve found who I really am. Have you found who you are?

So, let no one despise your youth. Haters gonna hate, but don’t let ’em because you’re younger. Haters are going to come, and they might bother you for awhile, but if you keep in mind Who’s opinion really matters, that may help it go easier. Then they realize you don’t care and they might move on.

Also, the delete button is a great thing for comments…

So how about that? I just gave you two tips! I feel so alive! Well, I’m going to go hop on over to a post Sara did about chivalry… See what I’m missing…

~ Collin


Howdy! I’m Collin, 16 years old, and a homeschooled junior. I play the piano, ukulele, and many sports. I’m far from perfect, and that’s why I love to share (through this blog) what God is showing me in His word. Although I have many favorite Bible verses, if I had to choose one it would be Romans 12:12, Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” I believe that prayer is the most powerful tool we are given as Christians and it should not be taken for granted. Toodles!


11 thoughts on “How to Get Rid of Haters

  1. Hey, thanks, Collin! I can totally relate to everything you said. And I really like how you said that our identity is based on what HE thinks of us. Great thoughts! 🙂


  2. Great thoughts Collin!! I’m 17, homeschooled, and somewhat a tomboy 😉 And I really struggle with fighting stereotypes. For being a teenager, homeschooled, and loving the outdoors/hunting/etc more than nail polish and make up. 😀

    This was super encouraging!! Thanks 🙂
    (You’ve heard of the book “Do Hard Things” right??? This is so a “Hard Things” post …!!)

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    • Thank you so much!! As teenagers, it is so hard to fight slipping into stereotypes and I do it all the time. I’m so glad this post was able to encourage you! Just be yourself and trust God 🙂 It is great to meet another homeschooler on here, thanks for stopping by!

      And of course! The Harris brothers have encouraged us in so many ways and I keep up with The Rebelution from time to time, their stuff is so good. So I take it a high compliment that you think my stuff worthy of that caliber… I appreciate it very much!

      God bless you! Have a great week ❤️

      ~ Collin

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  3. Bethany Myers says:

    Loving having you back as a regular writer, Collin! You’ve got some great wisdom to share with us and it’s so encouraging! Praise God and keep it up!


    • Thank you so much, Bethany! You’re such a huge encourager, I really appreciate it 🙂 Praise God indeed for what He’s showing me, I have no wisdom without Him 🙌🏼


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